August 24, 2005 (Victoria)

– Be more clear with communication – Ie: tell her I’m feeling bad about myself so she doesn’t automatically assume it’s about her
– Write down what each of us is contributing to the relationship
– Try to elicit change or motivational statements from her – don’t turn a positive from me into a negative (ie: you’ve changed so much for the better…” , “No, I haven’t”
– Always use open-ended questions “What is it that you get/like about the poker things?”
– Logical consequences
– Put the ball in her court
– Book: “Children, The Challenge”